7 years sober!
Typing that seems surreal. For the seventh anniversary of my sobriety I thought I would conjure a nifty list that may help those new to sobriety. Below you will find seven things I’ve learned in seven years of sobriety.
For clarity sake, when I say alcoholic that includes drug addicts too. Alcohol is a drug. Vice versa.
Live life on life’s terms
This is said throughout the sober community as a way of expressing the acceptance of loss of control. The reality is our control is limited and sparse. Living life on life’s terms is a cliche way of saying accept what you cannot control.
The desire fades
The desire to use or drink fades with time. This isn’t to say that there will not be difficult days full of triggers rather the more time away from your substance of choice, the less you will have cravings.
The world continues to turn
Unfortunately just because we quit drinking doesn’t mean that anyone else will. The reality is there will be people you will come into contact with who will not understand your allergy to alcohol. Same with the sell of alcohol. It will continue in the form of advertising, sports viewing events, and bbq’s.
This too shall pass
The agony of a sober life will lessen as you continue on your journey. The resentments will be resolved, the regrets fade, and genuine apologies are accepted. The pain of your drunken actions will soon be a distant memory.
One is never enough
It’s simple. Keep it that way.
A drink/drug is never the answer
You end up where you were when you left off. Period. It isn’t fun. Not for an alcoholic.
Normal is boring
Basically.
If you are new to sobriety, congrats! It gets less painful, I promise. Keep your head up. And most importantly, keep it simple. Thank you to all of you for your continued support along my journey. Without it I wouldn’t have made it this far.
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Way to go!!!!!!!
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Thank you very much! ☺️
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Congratulations! -or happy anniversary? It needs its own term because that is impressive. I’ve never had alcohol or drugs but have an addictive behavior pattern so I very much understand the mindset.
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Thanks lady!! ☺️
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Well done! ❤️
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Thank you friend 😍
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Congratulations!
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Thank you ☺️
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Well done you! Keep up the great work 🙂
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Thanks!
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Congratulations! Well done. While I am not an alcoholic, I choose to be sober because it runs in my family (on both sides), and honestly, I like it too much to feel comfortable drinking. 7 years is amazing!! 🙂
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Thank you very much! I appreciate the support.
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Congratulations on your sobriety and the inspiration with your sharing of your journey!
🤍🦋✨
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Thanks to you and this wonderful community.
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That’s very kind … I’m grateful to be here and part of this wonderful community, too! ✨peace to you! 🙂
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“The agony of a sober life” — this phrase nicely sums up those early days. I don’t think it’s possible to convey what it feels/felt like. I’m about 8 months behind you, and while I still haven’t figured out how to be sober and live a ‘normal’ life, you’re right… the craving is gone.
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Those early days are pure agony.
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Awesome! The first seven years are the hardest.
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Yes, congratulations. You are so worth it all, you are building something very profound and it is asking to be seen. Love will do that, like a flower it wants to be in that sunshine and will slowly show you why as it blooms more beautifully each day. Take a bow my friend, it has taken great courage to reach this place, be proud of it all 😀 ❤️ 🙏🏽 🦋
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Oh my, thank you!! I’ve never thought of it as courageous but I will now! Thank you for stopping by. I just followed your blog today 🤓
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Glad to have you on board. And it is that belief in you, that love of yourself that has shown you your journey and asking to be set free. Enjoy the sunshine my friend, you have earned it 😀 ❤️ 🙏🏽 🦋
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Congrats on 7 years! Wow! I made it one year, once, but now I am on day 4. 😦 All in due time…
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One day at a time.
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